What are You Trying to Get Done This Spring?

Hi,

If you are just joining us, for the last few weeks we’ve been talking about how to do less and get done what you really want to get done – seriously.

But I have a confession to make.  I had promised – PROMISED – myself that I would launch my coaching program for women undergoing IVF (called Fertilista) by May 15. That was my hard stop date. Not May 15th of next year, but THE May 15th that has just passed. And guess what? I didn’t – but more on that program a little later.

Here I am, little old me, writing blogs to our readers about how to accomplish great things in our lives by doing less and focusing on what really matters. And I couldn’t, for the life of me, meet my own darn deadline!

But in not meeting it I learned some valuable lessons, so I’m going to share a story with you…ready for some gossip? 

Sooooo . . . I was super productive and on track to meet this deadline this Spring.  And being the empath that I am, I love to create, support everyone around me, and sing kumbaya (seriously – I learned this song sitting crisscross applesauce on the floor of Sister Betty’s classroom in second grade and knew that my life would never be the same), light a smudge stick and give everyone a hug. These are the things that bring me joy.

If you love this stuff too – you should check out our chakra balancing pop-up next week for the kumbaya types. It’s good stuff; but not as good as the gossip that I am about to share with you.

Starting at the end of April, my world began to implode. There is a person close to me who comes from a family of 5 kids. Every July, all 32 of the immediate family members (and me) stay in a couple of homes that are maybe within a one-square-mile radius.

You can think of this family as somewhat of the Kennedy type – but without the Chatham compound and political clout.  Everyone is highly ambitious, extremely smart, and very adept at back-door deals (just like the Kennedys).  I can hold my own during July with the Kennedy clan since we all know that I have a gift for sarcasm and mockery

Anywho, everyone lives at opposite corners of the East Coast so we only really all see each other in July. Some have homes at the lake, but most of the clan stays with the parents of the family.

And with this family, right on schedule, the drama drumbeat starts beating in the Spring. Every year, it starts with low rumblings in April – think gossip over why the parents are putting out the single-ply toilet paper for their beloved friends and family while secretly hoarding the Charmin in the master bath! Yup, it’s true. 

The drumbeat gathers more steam in May and June with a steady rat-tat-tat about more sinister activities that have taken place in summers past like someone’s husband crashing the Sea-doo every year after getting intimate with a steady stream of Arnold Palmers. 

It usually builds into a big crescendo in July when the entire group is all together.  The fireworks begin over gossip about who may or may not have been fired from their job but yet was able to buy a new 24-foot Stingray boat and new diamond ring on the parent’s dime. Yup – it’s a lot. 

And guess what?  It’s ALL HAPPENING. LIKE RIGHT NOW – we have fast-forwarded to the scandals of July (while still in May).  

I’m getting thrown left and right gossip about secret texts to soon-to-be sons-in-law, parents saying terrible about their own children, and custody battles. As if this weren’t enough, the family has a 60th wedding anniversary coming up for the parents and one of the guests is threatening to show up to the gala in, let’s call them “bunless chaps” for the sake of decency. I am not sure of the logic behind all of this, but you get the point – the monkeys are burning down the circus. And yes, all of this happened last week. 

I love this family and the parents, but this violent chess match is taking its toll on me. I’m sure many of you feel the same way with certain family members and friends who seem to hoard all the drama for themselves.

It’s like an episode of Arrested Development.  Except it’s not and it’s really harshing my Kumbaya vibe. To the point that I can’t focus on my projects or enjoy life right now because my phone is ringing off the hook with the latest updates.

So, back to the point of all of this, like a good student wanting to get back on track, I took my own advice and made sure that I had taken a lot of tasks off my plate. Check.

I made sure that I had a lot of open bandwidth to work on the projects that light me up, which right now is my Fertilista program (that soon-to-be launched coaching program) . Check, check!

What I was missing was joy and support.  You can’t achieve your goals if you aren’t having fun and being supported – this is called the Spring Phase of achieving your dreams.

So on Sunday, my husband and I thought perhaps we should relieve our stress by renting a stump grinder from the Home Depot and grinding away a few old tree stumps. It was kinda fun until the grinder caught on fire and started throwing off yellow flames. The Home Depot worker and his “supah” drove out and picked up the flaming grinder and my husband and I were again left alone with our thoughts and the stress of the upcoming July family feud.

So, on Monday, I got an acupuncture treatment to clear the chatter in my brain. Tuesday, I went to a dive bar with some friends and drank a Michelob ultra old school style out of the bottle and had dinner.  Wednesday my husband and I watched the super funny guy named Anthony on Tik Tok (if you hit reply and ask me, I will share with you his TikTok name) and scream laughed in bed for 2 hours. It’s the kind of funny that you laugh so hard that you choke on your own spittle.  

And guess what? Today, I feel perfectly at peace with the number 2 storm headed my way.

I feel ready for tomorrow – I am excited to finally finish up my coaching program and get it out to the world.

Moral of the story? If you hit a wall and you’ve perfected the fall and winter phases(of your project and you need more forward traction into the Spring creation Phase – surround yourself with support and fun.

PS – Here is the shameless plug to book an acupuncture treatment if you need more support to accomplish your dreams.

PSS – Here is the link to attend our chakra balancing pop-up if you need the cobwebs cleared and your energy centers balanced.

PSSS – Want to be the first to know when I launch Fertlista? Interested in all things fertility? Sign up here to be in the know!

I hope you enjoyed my bit of gossip, and I hope you seek creation and support in your life this spring.

Warmly, 

Nicole